Planning a wedding can be stressful, especially when it comes to money and finding the perfect venue. Not to mention picking out a weddings dress, bridesmaids outfits, cakes, meals, the list goes on and on. Of course we can’t blame ourselves for getting caught in the whirl-wind of it all, but we also have to make a conscious initiative to enjoy the moment. After all, this is a once in a lifetime event (at least we hope so!)
Here are the top 5 regrets most couples have about their special day:
-It isn’t a competition on who can take the most shots, slow down!
Oh, good ol’ booze. When it comes to weddings, alcohol can play a big role, especially if there is an open bar (woo!). This might be fun for guests, but, during our research we found that some grooms/brides feel that they took it too far. Instead of being able to remember their special day, their memories are fuzzy. Don’t get us wrong, you can definitely have a drink, or two, or three, but pace yourself! You don’t want to look like a hot mess in your pictures either.
-No, you don’t need to have a full on conversation with each guest.
This may be easier when it comes to smaller, more intimate weddings, but for a bigger wedding this can be really stressful if your planning on sitting at each table and conversing with each guest. That’s what announcements are for! Thank your guests all together, rather than one at a time. If you do plan to take that approach don’t be surprised that the night fly’s by, without either of you being able to relax or eat! Remember this is your night! Enjoy it to the fullest.
-Picking out everything solely for your family/friends to be happy and putting aside what makes you and your hubby happy.
I know impressing your family and friends may be a big priority when it comes to weddings, but you have to remember that both of your wants/needs are just as important! If you like a certain color, use it! Don’t worry about what others are going to think of you. If you want to walk down the aisle to a rock & roll song, go ahead! If your guests know you and the groom well enough, they know that those little things have big meaning.
-Not making a budget or sticking to one.
Of course you want to make each other happy on your special day by giving what each of you want to the other, but be smart about it. Sticking to a budget can help a lot. If you feel like you can enjoy the night without that certain something, then you probably don’t need it. Stick with the basics and do your research, there are many ways to cut costs. You don’t need to spend your life savings all on one day. Most couples end up having regrets once the bills pile up. Try to keep the remembrance of the day as positive as possible.
-Everyone and their mother needs to come and I’m talking EVERYONE.
No, bad idea. The people that should be at your wedding should be people who have known you and your fiancé throughout the years. Family and close friends are a must, and even acquaintances that you feel would enjoy spending this special moment with both of you. But no need to invite everyone from high school, college, and friends of friends of friends! You want the day to be filled with happiness and the energy to be on point! Good vibes only!